The other night Hubby picks up some sandwiches for the 2 of us, for dinner. I have ordered a "wrap" or "rolled" sandwich with grilled chicken strips and ranch dressing while he had sliced turkey on wheat with 1000 isle dressing. He comes home and begins eating. I finish fixing the kids' dinner and retire to our bedroom to have a little quiet. I open up the wrapper and find it is not my order. I ask him what he ordered for me and he realizes he has my sandwich. In those few minutes, not only did he start eating a sandwich that was completely different than what he ordered, he ate more than half of it, and he was eating both halves stacked on top of each other. His consolation is to offer to go out and pick up a desert for me, but the offer includes that he waits until after his TV sports event comes to a break.
How do you eat so mindlessly that you don't notice that what you're putting in your mouth is completely different than what you're expecting? At the very least, you should notice after the first bite. How does dessert replace a healthy protein sandwich? How is it fair that I should have to wait nearly an hour before getting replacement food?
I don't understand his relationship with food. I don't understand how he complains so much about his weight, yet does nothing about it. I think he's put on about 130 pounds since we met. If I put on that much, or even a ratio of that much, there is no way he wouldn't be hounding me about it, especially if he had only gained 10 pounds in the same time. By the way, an equal ratio of weight gain would result in 208 pounds on my 5'2 frame.
I don't want to belittle him, but I don't know how to approach this issue - AT ALL. I mainly stay silent. He has asked me directly if his weight turns me off and I answered honestly. (It doesn't. However, I didn't add that it doesn't inspire me either.) I want to be a supportive wife in this, but he needs a kick in the butt. Well, really he needs that in many areas of his life - our life.
Anything I say is taken as offensive because he is not happy either. So, I just can't do anything, but watch his health, mental and physical, continue to decline. I guess it's not nothing, but I can only shop in a fairly healthful manner though I have no control of how much he eats or the fact that he persists in eating fast food every day for lunch. What is the spouse supposed to do?
