Hubby

I just wanted to add something. I complain about my husband, many do. He drives me nuts and I can't stand living with him most of the time. This is not to say that I don't love him, that I don't wish things were different. However, it is to the point where I cannot always remember why I do love him. So, for your benefit and mine, I'm going to list some of his good attributes.
He's creative - with various art mediums, music and words.
He's ethical - just one example: while preparing to work on his portfolio, he was looking at the formats and example works of others online. He was dismayed to find that someone he knew was showing examples of work that the person was only loosely associated with. He
would never consider doing this although he feels it is common practice and would certainly boost his portfolio.
He allows himself to cry - many men don't.
He's affectionate - which is practically a miracle given his upbringing.
He tells me that he loves me - even in front of his friends which, again, is practically a miracle given his upbringing.
He's family oriented - repeat the "miracle"
He's intelligent - he continues to search out opportunities to learn
He's got similar odd mixes of ideals that I do - conservativism with liberalism, religion with free thinking, government with anti-government, snobbery and acceptance, etc.
He's got growth potential - meaning that the changes I wish to see in him (and that he says he wishes to effect) are characteristics he displays, just not as often as he should. I'm not trying to turn a turkey into a peacock, I just want the peacock to display his feathers more often.
Areas of growth potential include, but are not limited to: Thoughtfulness, consideration, kindness, parenting, and spousing.
I just hope that his stated desire to "display his feathers" overcomes his objectionable "habits."